Garry() @garrytan Managing Partner, @Initialized. Earliest investor in @coinbase @instacart @flexport & 100+ more—$36B in startup market cap so far. Forbes Midas List 2019 #21 🚀 May. 17, 2019 1 min read

It is shocking how often startups fail because of the personality flaws and deep seated childhood traumas of their founders and execs.

Get therapy. Get exec coaching. Do inner work.

It will save you if you let it. You’ll solve problems now and prevent problems in the future.

The first step is often awareness. Take the adverse childhood experience (ACE) test for instance.

If you reflect on where you’ve been you can often see around corners and address them. I was surprised at how affected I was over my career by this.

 https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2015/03/02/387007941/take-the-ace-quiz-and-learn-what-it-does-and-doesnt-mean 

Self compassion is important too. Allow yourself to make mistakes. Allow others to do the same.

There is a way forward, to be your best self, without shame being a driver. This was one epiphany/breakthrough I had in my inner work recently

I am deeply thankful to my first exec coach @yarbroughcam. He made @torchlabs to deeply address this pain on millions of teams.

Every org is an orchestra. You can make more beautiful music together when deeply in sync. Coaching is how teams make better music together.

There were two suicides in my YC batch in 2008. They were brilliant people who I miss.

We demand unreasonable things from ourselves and our teams. Sometimes too much. It doesn’t have to be that way.

Founders are incredibly attuned to what is broken: we wouldn’t start companies otherwise.

Trauma is not something to be ashamed of. You should not deny it. You cannot move forward without acknowledging it brought you here.

And with that you can transcend.

More resources

 https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00G3L1C2K/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1 

More on exec coaching  https://torch.io/blog-articles/ 

Need someone to talk to?  https://www.7cups.com 


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