Found this useful framework from a favorite psychologist Roy Baumeister
Most useful take away: “The 4:1 ratio”
Since bad experiences are 4x more salient than good—you need 4x good to balance (whether in personal relationships, pleasing customers...) https://www.wsj.com/articles/for-the-new-year-say-no-to-negativity-11577464413 …
Here are 4 useful takeaways—
1. “Do not harm”
Avoiding bad is far more important than doing good.
You get relatively LITTLE credit for doing MORE than you promised but pay a BIG price for FALLING SHORT...
3. Put Bad Moments to Good use
PENALTIES are usually more effective than REWARDS—
*...Which is why hell-fearing religions have historically grown after than ones preaching positive messages...
*...the self-esteem movement is a sorry mistake in psychology.
5. Get Perspective—
Don’t let the salience of short-term negative events consume. Pay attention to the long-term big picture trends of positivity.
I dont agree w/ ignorance of truth—for sake of happiness—
that can be a dangerous drug of distraction
Bad events motivate us
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