I don't know if this will work in your daily interactions but I always tell my friends, mentees & those who care to listen that our emotions should be regularly assessed. There are betters ways to use your anger, fear, jealousy & pride so you can become a more self-aware person.
I always let them know they we are all unique in our own ways. We have different learning abilities, grasping capacity, interests, hobbies, dreams, goals, aspirations and personality traits.
Regularly try to find a balance (moderation) on the emotion spectrum.
I shared with them that these human emotions can be used wisely. A lot of the great inventions we use today didn't all come from positive emotions - but 'negative' emotions like frustration, anger, fear and etc.
Even positive emotions can become a problem if it is too extreme.
Anger has a negative reputation when compared to positive emotions such as joy. However, more and more social and evolutionary psychologists, brain scientists, and mental health professionals are suggesting anger has valuable qualities & can be beneficial to the human condition.
From an evolutionary perspective, all emotions are appropriate in certain circumstances when experienced at an optimal degree, providing the resources to effectively operate toward a desired goal. E.g mild anger can help us positively move forward.
Mild to moderate anger can help us positively move forward—yet, of course, extreme or chronic anger can be detrimental to our well-being.
If we see anger as something that makes us more informed, we can adapt our response accordingly to better our position.
Always assess and regulate your emotions from an evolutionary and survival perspective.
Another example of anger - it makes you aware of injustice, it drives you toward your goals, serves as a social and personal value indicator and regulator.
Fear - The fear system is geared toward what is attainable, not the impossible. When you are in fear, you often feel positive about your ability to change the situation, empowering you to take action and move from an undesirable position to a desirable one.
Jealousy - It is designed to recalibrate certain situations you find yourself with others and thus increase your value. It causes you to rethink your positions against their position. It can push you to reach your deeper self.
What are you doing with the emotion - jealousy?
It provides insight to ourselves, as it is the layer of deeper issues that are most hidden. It can also be a signal of your weaknesses, shortcomings and faults or a reminder of the barriers in front of you.
Do your personal SWOT/TOWS analysis so you can minimize your weaknesses.
Pride - There are 2 categories of pride:
Authentic - healthy, positive notion of self-worth, realistic estimate of one's abilities.
Hubristic - unhealthy, arrogant, inordinately driven to succeed—and repeatedly, because they can’t really internalize individual triumphs.
Authentic pride that is healthy can make you a better person and can be a force of positive change. It provides insight into our strengths and shortcomings. If looked at constructively, this can lead to positive outcomes. Just like motivation, it can lead to self-change.
Individuals willing to embrace uncomfortable emotions such as anger + fear + jealousy + sadness, rather than avoiding or repressing them, have greater emotional intelligence.
Emotionally intelligent individuals do not resist their emotions, instead utilizing its "wisdom" to gain its clarity and positives. As a result, emotionally intelligent individuals have highly flexible emotional response systems & are more adaptive & resilient.
Despite an unfavorable reputation that these emotions (anger, fear, jealousy and pride) have, they still remain an integral part of our fight-or-flight mechanism. These emotions can push us to fix the wrongs we see in the world and make it right.
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